About
- Solution-focused methods
- Sex-positive support
- Intersectional lens
About Nicole
Nicole Thomte is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) practicing in Minnesota with 13 years of clinical experience. She works with adults who face stress, anxiety, relationship and intimacy concerns, mood disorders, trauma and grief, and the pressures that come from caregiving or workplace strain.
Nicole offers affirmative support for people who identify as LGBTQIA+, and for those involved in kink, consensual non-monogamy, and alternative sexual cultures. She describes a sex-positive stance while recognising asexuality as part of a valid spectrum. Her approach often draws on solution-focused ideas and an intersectional feminist perspective.
Her style leans toward nondirective conversation and collaborative reflection. She listens for patterns, helps name connections, and uses practical techniques when useful. Humor and straightforward talk appear in sessions alongside careful listening.
Nicole's path into therapy came after other careers, and she brings that life experience into clinical work. Early in her practice she worked in behavioral health settings with people facing multiple health and resource challenges. She also co-facilitated survivor groups and led therapeutic work with people affected by sex- and gender-based violence.
In session she tends to avoid labels as a starting point and focuses on the concerns people bring. Her background includes supporting survivors, sex workers, and sex- and gender-diverse people, and she aims to offer practical, respectful help for coping and problem solving.
How sessions work
How her approaches shape online work
Nicole commonly draws on Client-Centered Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) when working with relationship stress, anxiety, mood concerns, or grief. Client-Centered Therapy focuses on the person's experience and priorities, using reflective listening and collaborative exploration to clarify what matters most. CBT looks at patterns of thinking and behavior and uses practical exercises to change unhelpful cycles and reduce symptoms.She also uses elements of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) for emotion regulation and coping skills when people struggle with intense feelings or interpersonal conflict. DBT provides concrete tools - such as grounding, distress tolerance, and communication skills - that can be practiced between sessions and applied to everyday challenges.
Choosing the right mix of methods is a collaborative process. The therapist will work with the client to identify goals, try approaches that fit those goals, and adjust as needed based on what helps. This means sessions can evolve from conversation to skills practice depending on what the person finds useful.
Confirm the specific online session formats available before booking, since the biography does not list them. Many people find online work helps fit therapy into busy days, allows shorter check-ins when needed, and makes it easier to include sessions around work or caregiving schedules. The focus is on making therapy practical and usable within everyday life.
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Experience
13+ years
Listed in
Minnesota
Languages
English
Questions
Frequently asked questions
What kinds of concerns does she help with?
Nicole works with stress, anxiety, relationship and intimacy issues, mood disorders, trauma, grief, self-esteem and family concerns as listed in her specialties.
How would she describe her therapeutic style?
She uses a mostly nondirective, conversational style and often incorporates solution-focused techniques to find practical steps forward.
How much clinical experience does she have?
Nicole has 13 years of experience working in clinical settings, including behavioral health agencies and group facilitation with survivors of gender-based violence.
What credential does she hold and where is she based?
She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) licensed in Minnesota and practices from that state.
Does she work in other languages or with international clients?
Sessions are offered in English and she is not accepting international clients at this time.
What session formats are available?
Please confirm current session options before booking, as the biography does not specify which formats are offered.
How are sessions paid for and what does cost look like?
Cost varies with location; sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.
How do I begin if I want to work with her?
Select the See online therapy options button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session through the platform.
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